Honeymoon Nights: Not What They Used to Be

The honeymoon night of the 50’s or even earlier was a whole different ball game than a honeymoon night today. The biggest difference is the sex; more than half of newlywed couples polled by bridal magazines and websites admit that they are too tired for any lovemaking on their first honeymoon night if they leave right after the reception.

Wedding planning is also not what it used to be; from choosing vendors to picking bouquets and place settings for the 200 people you barely know is a tough job and it requires meticulous planning even if you hire a professional wedding planner. If you are into details, and most brides are for their once in a lifetime (hopefully) event, then they want to do most of the choosing and shopping even if they have a planner. All this spells out months of exhaustion and tension on the big day if everything will fall in to place.

After everything does go smoothly, all brides want to do is sleep. Some grooms may not share the same definition of a honeymoon night but they really can’t do much about it if their new spouse has dozed off on the way from the reception in the limo. Also because the majority of couples have already had sex before the honeymoon night, there really is little charm for going through the effort on the day when so much more is going on.

Bring Back the Sizzle in Honeymoon Nights

You could spice up your honeymoon night for traditions sake at least by postponing the honeymoon for a few days. By not leaving immediately after the wedding ceremony or reception, you get to recuperate from the exhaustion and can start the honeymoon on the right note

Even though it sounds archaic in this day and age, but few (actually very few) couples are holding off sex until the honeymoon night. And just by waiting to sleep with one another after the vows, makes their honeymoon night that more special. Don’t fret too much about whether the flowers in your bouquet match the ones on the centerpieces; focus on your partner and the new life that you are about to begin.

Even if ultimate intimacy is not on your things to do list, at least exchange a special gift, see the wedding pictures on your digital camera, relax in a hot tub for two or anything else that will make the honeymoon night more memorable than sleeping.

How to Register for a Great Honey Moon

So many people register for baby showers and weddings, that the concept of a honey moon registry seems only but logical. This is because wedding costs are rising and many couples often have to sacrifice their own honey moon in favor of other wedding "necessities".

The honey moon registry idea is perfect for couples who have careers and their own separate places and therefore have all the basic stuff one would need to start living together. If they are practical enough to think that he has silverware and she has silverware; why register for another set, then they can opt for a honey moon registry instead.

This way their friends and family can buy gift certificates in any amount they choose which will go towards their trip. There are several companies and websites such as the Wedding Channel that offer such registries. However terms and conditions vary; therefore be careful in reading the fine print as service charges may apply and certificates may expire should you choose not to honey moon immediately.

Spread the Word

After selecting which honey moon registry appeals to you the most, ask your maid of honor or best man to spread the word in the shower invites or choose the email option where the registry service sends the announcement on your behalf. This way you'll be helping friends and family who are stumped as to what to get you and it will prevent you from getting yet another toaster or place setting.

Many times close friends and relatives want to give the couple something meaningful and something they are sure to use. With a honey moon registry they can be sure that their money was well spent and appreciated. You could send a picture of you and your spouse on the trip as a thank you note instead of the traditional cards.

Cruise Options

This new registry business has branched out in to the seas as well and you can even register for honey moon cruise registry if you so wish. Honeymoon Voyages and other such companies can make it very easy for you to set up a registry and gift givers can purchase certificates in increments of $50 or $100.

However, honey moon cruises also have their pros and cons. While you only have to unpack once and cruises are usually all-inclusive, they might not provide you with as much privacy as you would like. If you want time alone with your spouse, you would want to choose a balcony cabin so that you don’t feel cramped in an inside cabin. Some cruises have the option for you to dine alone, but many don’t. So find out all the details before signing on with a cruise for your honey moon.